How you think can impact your relationship satisfaction Inan eye-opening study, a trio of family and relationship psychologists investigated 130 couples in their second year of marriage. 18 months later, they collected further data from these couples. The psychologists found that a significant factor in determining the couple’s relationship satisfaction over time was something called an attribution […]
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BEHIND THE NYSC HOSTEL
When I got to Damare Nysc camp gate, I was shattered. The sun was up and blazing. I couldn’t imagine the idea of spending three weeks in a movement restricted area. The environment killed my morale. I wanted to run back if I could but I couldn’t. I peeped through the gate and saw people […]
My fairytale Love Story.
Once upon a time in 2012, immediately after secondary school, I started to prepare for Jamb. Having failed the post utme I wrote in SS3, it was time to get serious. I enrolled in a jamb lesson. My first day at the lesson centre, some students kept on talking about one cute shakara government […]
SIGNS IT ISN’T LOVE
“Love” is hard. Not complex but hard. Especially when it comes to knowing if you really have it. I talk a lot about signs it is love, but here’s a list of common signs especially feelings we attribute to “love” that actually are not. YOU’RE FLYING HIGH Love is not about highs and “peaks.” Everyone experiences the elation of […]
HOW TO *REALLY* KNOW YOU’RE IN LOVE
If you try to Google “how to know you’re in love,” you’re going to get confused at a point reading plenty things but I want you to sit tight and enjoy a different thing. 1. YOU KNOW BECAUSE YOU DECIDE You don’t feel love. You DO it. It’s an act, not a feeling. It’s a moment by moment […]
LOVE DOES NOT CONQUER ALL
Despite whatever you might have been told, love is not all you need. When it comes to relationships, you need a whole lot more, like compatible beliefs, mutual respect, and communication. Love and compatibility are often mistaken as the same. But they’re two very different things. Circumstance matters a lot You can wholeheartedly love something that […]
THE SMART, INTROVERTED MAN
He admits that he works a lot, he doesn’t meet a lot of women, but he’s looking for the right woman: smart, driven, beautiful. Not one for online dating or apps, he hates dating, and he’s frustrated and clueless. You’re puzzled as to why. There is an aura of mystique that surrounds him when you […]
WHAT “WORKING’’ ON A RELATIONSHIP SHOULD BE
All relationships take work. But not all “work” is good One of the things keep a lot of us in bad relationships longer than we should stay is the unfortunate phrase: “All relationships take work. “And it’s ugly cousin phrase: “All couples fight.” It’s not that you will never date someone who seems too good to be true […]
RELATIONSHIPS : “RIGHT PERSON, WRONG TIME”
You hear it so often, either from potential partners telling you why it won’t work, or friends talking about their relationships, or from your own mouth, to someone else. The context of Right person. Wrong time. But in reality, there’s no such thing. And there are totally going to be people you date due to timing! There […]
5 TRIGGER PHRASES THAT ARE RUINING YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will…ruin our relationship. Have you ever been reluctant to bring up a topic with your partner because it will inevitably lead to shouting profanities and slamming doors? Have you ever said something in the middle of a conversation that unintentionally (or, perhaps, intentionally) pissed of your […]