Thoughts on partner ownership, jealousy and trust. I might have mentioned it before, but my husband is kind of hot. (sorry, not sorry). I’ve dated men with such a variety of looks that it’s safe to say I don’t have a type. While I found each of them extremely attractive at the time of dating, […]
Tag: INFIDELITY
What you should know about cheating
When we picture cheating, we likely picture sexy, stolen moments. Two people cuddled up in hotel rooms and having a breathtaking sex. The usual story is that the cheater is sex starved, miserable, nagged or even in a hostile relationship back home and he’s basically forced to cheat or suffer a miserable life. People who cheat are […]
BEHIND THE NYSC HOSTEL
When I got to Damare Nysc camp gate, I was shattered. The sun was up and blazing. I couldn’t imagine the idea of spending three weeks in a movement restricted area. The environment killed my morale. I wanted to run back if I could but I couldn’t. I peeped through the gate and saw people […]
HOW TO *REALLY* KNOW YOU’RE IN LOVE
If you try to Google “how to know you’re in love,” you’re going to get confused at a point reading plenty things but I want you to sit tight and enjoy a different thing. 1. YOU KNOW BECAUSE YOU DECIDE You don’t feel love. You DO it. It’s an act, not a feeling. It’s a moment by moment […]
LOVE DOES NOT CONQUER ALL
Despite whatever you might have been told, love is not all you need. When it comes to relationships, you need a whole lot more, like compatible beliefs, mutual respect, and communication. Love and compatibility are often mistaken as the same. But they’re two very different things. Circumstance matters a lot You can wholeheartedly love something that […]
THE SMART, INTROVERTED MAN
He admits that he works a lot, he doesn’t meet a lot of women, but he’s looking for the right woman: smart, driven, beautiful. Not one for online dating or apps, he hates dating, and he’s frustrated and clueless. You’re puzzled as to why. There is an aura of mystique that surrounds him when you […]
WHAT “WORKING’’ ON A RELATIONSHIP SHOULD BE
All relationships take work. But not all “work” is good One of the things keep a lot of us in bad relationships longer than we should stay is the unfortunate phrase: “All relationships take work. “And it’s ugly cousin phrase: “All couples fight.” It’s not that you will never date someone who seems too good to be true […]
THE QUESTION OF INFIDELITY
“What if when one of you are in a committed relationship?” And here’s my answer: whether someone leaves their partner for someone else depends on their value system and, to an extent, their definition of love. The only time someone else other than your partner would even look like the “right” person is when your […]