Love

SIGNS IT ISN’T LOVE

“Love” is hard.  Not complex but hard. Especially when it comes to knowing if you really have it. I talk a lot about signs it is love, but here’s a list of common signs especially feelings we attribute to “love” that actually are not. YOU’RE FLYING HIGH Love is not about highs and “peaks.” Everyone experiences the elation of […]

Relationship

WHEN COMMUNICATION IS NOT ENOUGH

If you ask people what “the key to making a relationship last” is, one of the most common answers you’ll get is: “Communication.” (That, as well as “trust,” or “respect,” or whatever…) But the thing is… “Communication” is not the secret And whoever thinks it is needs to do a real gut-check on this one. Folks […]

Marriage

YOU NEED TO STOP DOING THESE THINGS

We on many occasions are unkind to our partners. Not in big ways, but rather in infinite tiny ways. Little, countless cuts, every day. We tease. We complain. We ignore. We nitpick. We nag. We neg. “Negging,”  it is when you deliberately cut someone down while flirting in order to lower their confidence. It’s usually […]

Marriage

HAPPILY EVER AFTER

If you want to be together forever; then YOU HAVE TO DELIBERATELY CHOOSE. Every day. Even when you’re not “feeling’ it,” or are feeling something’ for someone else. Love is a choice, an investment, something of which we are the active agent — not something we “feel” or “fall into.” Because if you define your love […]