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When I got to Damare Nysc camp gate, I was shattered. The sun was up and blazing. I couldn’t imagine the idea of spending three weeks in a movement restricted area. The environment killed my morale. I wanted to run back if I could but I couldn’t. I peeped through the gate and saw people […]
“Love” is hard. Not complex but hard. Especially when it comes to knowing if you really have it. I talk a lot about signs it is love, but here’s a list of common signs especially feelings we attribute to “love” that actually are not. YOU’RE FLYING HIGH Love is not about highs and “peaks.” Everyone experiences the elation of […]
If you try to Google “how to know you’re in love,” you’re going to get confused at a point reading plenty things but I want you to sit tight and enjoy a different thing. 1. YOU KNOW BECAUSE YOU DECIDE You don’t feel love. You DO it. It’s an act, not a feeling. It’s a moment by moment […]
Despite whatever you might have been told, love is not all you need. When it comes to relationships, you need a whole lot more, like compatible beliefs, mutual respect, and communication. Love and compatibility are often mistaken as the same. But they’re two very different things. Circumstance matters a lot You can wholeheartedly love something that […]
He admits that he works a lot, he doesn’t meet a lot of women, but he’s looking for the right woman: smart, driven, beautiful. Not one for online dating or apps, he hates dating, and he’s frustrated and clueless. You’re puzzled as to why. There is an aura of mystique that surrounds him when you […]
All relationships take work. But not all “work” is good One of the things keep a lot of us in bad relationships longer than we should stay is the unfortunate phrase: “All relationships take work. “And it’s ugly cousin phrase: “All couples fight.” It’s not that you will never date someone who seems too good to be true […]
You hear it so often, either from potential partners telling you why it won’t work, or friends talking about their relationships, or from your own mouth, to someone else. The context of Right person. Wrong time. But in reality, there’s no such thing. And there are totally going to be people you date due to timing! There […]
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will…ruin our relationship. Have you ever been reluctant to bring up a topic with your partner because it will inevitably lead to shouting profanities and slamming doors? Have you ever said something in the middle of a conversation that unintentionally (or, perhaps, intentionally) pissed of your […]
I’d give specific examples here, but frankly I don’t have any, because it differs by person and couple. But one thing is true: keep on doing it. Very often, marriage and long-term relationships creates what I call: “The Gremlin Effect” The “Gremlin Effect” is that phenomenon where people just kind of change once they’ve been […]